Book Description
Making the change that helps to change the difficult Person in your life Button-pushers come in all shapes and sizes, but they have one thing in common: Their behavior drives us crazy and make us dream of ways to escape the mess we're in. The person who pushes your buttons is likely someone who matters to you--a spouse, a parent, a boss, a fellow church member. Almost always this difficult person is connected to you by blood, love, faith, or money, so you can't just end the relationship without causing pain and upheaval in your life. Our friends and today's culture will often advise us to abandon such relationships quickly--to end this unpleasant chapter and get on with our lives. Psychologist and author Dr. John Townsend disagrees. "Your button-pusher is not someone you would easily and casually leave. You are intertwined at many levels. It is worth the trouble to take a look at the ways the relationship you had, and want, can be revived and reborn." In this easy-to-read book he offers - Expert insights to help you understand your own button-pusher - Wise assistance in determining the nature of the problem - Compassionate help in identifying your failed attempts to fix things - A hope-filled vision for what can be and how to make it come true - Rich resources to help you navigate the necessary changes This revolutionary book comes from the pen of a professional who is equally at home in the counseling office, consulting with organizations or speaking at conferences. It gives you the tools not only to understand your trying situation, but also to learn how to influence that difficult person in your life to change in positive ways, while you change and grow as well.

From the Inside Flap
You can regain control of your life and stop the stress We all have at least one--a difficult person who know how to push our buttons and make us crazy. When we're really at wits end, our first inclination is to walk away. But Dr. John Townsend says that in his experience, most people give up too soon on their button-pusher. "They have a limited repertoire of responses, none of which are effective. So they resign themselves in hopelessness." Instead of leaving your spouse or date, severing family ties, or breaking off a friendship in order to find peace, why not try something new? In this insightful book, Dr. Townsend introduces a revolutionary approach for reaching out to, confronting negotiating with, and setting appropriate limits for the button-pushers you know. It's an approach that holds out great hope for difficult people--and great encouragement for those of us who love them. "Difficult, button-pushing people can and do change, in deep and long-lasting ways, all the time. I have seen it, and many other have witnessed and been a part of it. God has been in the business of changing difficult people for eons." the author of this book assures us. Find out what role you can play in changing your relationship.

About the Author
Dr. John Townsend is a popular speaker, psychologist, co-host of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! radio program, and co-founder of the Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. He is the author of many books, as well as co-author of the 2003 Retailers Choice Award-winning God Will Make a Way and the Gold Medallion Award-winning Boundaries (over 1 million copies sold). He maintains a private practice in Newport Beach, California, and lives with his wife and children in Los Angeles.

FROM OUR EDITORS

According to Boundaries coauthor Dr. John Townsend, difficult people test our patience, our human skills, and our faith. In Who's Pushing Your Buttons?, this practicing psychologist presents a revolutionary approach to resolving problems and moving ahead constructively with people with chronic relational problems.

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